We combined our second set of joint interviews with our home inspection. The social worker came to our house and talked to us about our relationship history, our thoughts about adoption, and our family culture. Then she interviewed the kids and inspected our house.
For the interview part, she asked questions like:
- What first attracted you to each other?
- How has your marriage changed?
- How would you describe your communication?
- What are the things you like most about each other?
- What is your parenting/disciplining philosophy?
- What strengths do you have that will make you good parents?
- General questions about the hard times in our marriage
- Why do you want to adopt?
- How will you integrate Ethiopian culture into your own family?
- How receptive are your family, friends, and community to your adoption?
- How diverse is your community?
- What is your family culture?
- What kind of child would fit in best into your family? (for us, a young extrovert)
The questions were really personal, but not too personal (which I was dreading). We were honest – we didn’t have a problem with that. And I didn’t feel like the questions went beyond the depth of the essay questions we had to answer. In fact, I think the probative level of the essay questions was far deeper – if people answered them honestly.
So then the social worker inspected our house. We had the maids come in the day before, just to make sure it was up-to-snuff. And the social worker had given us in advance a checklist of things she would be looking for, like a fire extinguisher, no cleaning supplies or medicines in reach of children, and no cleaning supplies co-stored with food. We had checked through the house two times to make sure we met all the standards on the checklist.
I think we passed this part of the home study (the pinnacle, in a lot of ways). At least I hope so. I mean, it would be pretty bad news for Button and Cutie Pie if we didn’t…